The Radical Practice Of Rest
/Rest is the pause required to integrate.
If you are a patient at my clinic, you know that I consistently encourage and praise rest.
Rest seems so taboo, such a foreign concept to many Western bodies and minds. It is generally not supported throughout our culture. In 2019, we are still inundated with the general expectation for linear productivity: it moves in one forward direction.
Our over exposure to technology (bless it for its values, that's how you're receiving this message) also inundates our bodies on a nervous system level. With our proclivity for screen time it can feel like we've been active even when we actually have done very little or nothing at all.
Reframing rest.
I am interested in changing the conversations within our current paradigm so that we might begin to experience the deep healing rest has to offer. Rest does not equal the absence of productivity. Rest is what prepares you, what fortifies you, what feeds you so that you may engage in activities - so that you can show up for your life.
Another very common conversation we have in my clinic is: how does your experience feel in the context of a given season? Inevitably, patients come in after the Autumn Equinox and throughout the Winter and remark that they feel tired. And, in lieu of extreme exhaustion, I get all excited and say "Oh, hooray! You're listening to your body!" and we discuss how we have different seasonal requirements for rest.
The seasons arise and fall away in a cyclical, circular motion. From the depths of Winter, Spring rises up, Summer is fully expressed, we harvest in the Fall and things begin their slow but predictable return to the depths of the earth in Winter. This is our peak opportunity to welcome and embrace rest.
But is that easy? No, not necessarily and often not at all! It's quite counter culture. Our Winter seasons are abuzz with spending resources (financial, emotional, temporal) and not replenishing our reserves. To reference the title of this email: it then becomes quite a radical practice of tuning in to the rhythms of the body, our needs and tending to them to the best of our ability in our moment to moment experience.
Restorative Activities (the invitation is to cultivate in all seasons):
1. Meditation
I mean, #duh. You've also likely heard me say this before, but I will say it again: meditation is not sexy. It is not necessarily nirvana, maybe some day we'll reach enlightenment. In the meantime, it gives us all great information on a body level.
If you do not have a meditation practice, I suggest the following tips for beginning:
1. Set a timer for 5 minutes.
2. Sit upright in a chair (spine as comfortably upright as possible, begin to notice how you hold your body).
3. Close your eyes if you feel safe and comfortable enough to do so. A focal point is also great.
4. Give yourself lots of breath. Begin the process of simply starting to turn your attention to yourself. You will have thoughts. My suggestion to a thought is to say "hello" and turn your attention to the sensation of your feet on the ground. Get curious about what sensations you might be feeling in your body.
Meditation, to me, is merely the process of turning all of that care and attention that you give to your loved ones, your creative projects, your career, your responsibilities and giving it back to yourself. Often times when I go to sit (which I resist almost daily) I say "Fritz, this might be the only 5-30 minutes you spend focusing on yourself all day." And that usually works for me. More discussion on the challenges and fruitfulness of a meditation practice later!
2. Intentionally Carving Out Quiet Time
No screens. No music. No social interactions. It's a great self-experiment to see how alone time feels in your body. What's the general feedback you get in the absence of outside stimulation? Nothing is right, nothing is wrong. It will help empower you to understand your own personal baseline (aka the buzz of your nervous system). Do you crave movement? Or could you just fall asleep standing? This is all very good information for you! Also: this is an incredible lot to ask of any human. I don't make this recommendation flippantly.
3. Sleep Hygiene
How do you prepare your body for rest? Related to numbers 1 and 2: creating a personal routine to discharge the stress and/or stimulation of a full day can be very helpful for cultivating a good night's sleep. A great many things can influence an individual's ability to sleep and to also feel rested from sleep. Low lights, turning off devices and screens, eating at a reasonable hour and even epsom salt baths may help aid in a better night's sleep.
4. Breathing
The breath is a big deal in essentially all of the ancient systems, yet it's something so automatic we often never think twice about it. When I encourage patients to make the shift from more rigorous movement routines in the Spring and Summer to more restorative practices in the Fall and Winter, breathing intentionally is always at the top of my list. To be given attention year round, the breath gives us a tremendous amount of feedback. Does your breath feel restricted? Is it difficult to take a deep breath in? Does is feel easy and fluid? Again, nothing is right and nothing is wrong. This is just personal feedback for our self-awareness practice. Not unrelated to our budding meditation practice, taking nice deep breaths + consciously turning our awareness to our breath throughout the day ends up being a gift you give yourself. It is simultaneously relaxing and rejuvenating. Breath work can be used both to wind down and to energize the system.
Nothing like a -55 temperature day to encourage rest.
The windchill today is impressive. The clinic is closed for everyone's safety and to encourage that we engage in the practices that we recommend. Productivity is not separate from "self care" or healthy rest. The two are linked, they are relational. Yin and Yang. We rest so we can be active. We are active and then must rest. Stay warm and safe, dear ones! I look forward to seeing you in clinic soon!
